Soft Stone

The idea is to be soft and hard at the same time.  Its impossible, but its the goal or drive of leading people.  No one wants to follow a rock and no one wants to follow a fluff ball.  A rock will break and hurt while a fluff ball will never push you.  Generals have called it, "winning the hearts and minds" of people, but the solders still had gun in their hands.  A Soft Stone.  I want my children to love me but i am pretty sure running with scissors is a bad idea.  So, if I have to discipline them, I practice the idea of a Soft Stone.  Soft and Hard at the same time.  I want to explore this idea in leadership with this blog.  What does it mean to lead and lead well?  Do the modern leadership gurus have it right?  Is leadership about getting what you want or is it about reaching goals? Both? Neither?  Lots of questions and few answers as we explore the Soft Stone.